Creating the perfect profile on a dating site or app is just half the journey to finding happy and harmonious relationships. To engage someone, you need to know how to maintain a conversation. Here are 17 effective ways to start a conversation if your chat has hit a dead end and you don’t know what else to write to your interlocutor.
Intriguing Start
- No better way to get someone into a conversation than to intrigue them. For example: “You won’t believe what happened to me at work today!” After such a message, the interlocutor simply cannot ignore you.
Instead of “How are you?”
- The phrase “Hi, how are you?” sounds quite cliché, right? Instead, you can restart a stalled conversation with: “What’s interesting happened since we last talked?”
Positive Question
- Another fun way to restart a conversation is to ask a question that just can’t help but put you in a good mood: “What made you smile or laugh today?”
Playful Start
- Honesty and openness are key secrets to communication in dating apps. Show these traits by writing the following phrase: “I was waiting for you to write first, but this time, I’ll do it for you!”
A Bit of Flirting
- Add a bit of flirtation to your conversation: “If we are competing to see who can go longer without writing messages, it seems I just lost.”
Unexpected Confession
- Writing to the interlocutor that you are a bit shy about starting the conversation first is absolutely fine: “Hi! I’m not very good at restarting conversations. Maybe you could try?”
Talking About Hobbies
- A great way to not only keep the conversation going but also to get to know the person better is to talk about their favorite series or movies. Instead of standard questions, you can use a more interesting approach: “The new season of ‘The Crown’ is finally out! Have you watched it yet?”
Talking About Favorite Music
- Some dating apps allow you to attach music tracks to messages – this is your chance to start an interesting conversation! “I can’t stop listening to this song! What’s the last song that amazed you?”
Returning to the Previous Topic
- If you talked about hobbies before, it’s a great way to show that you paid attention to the interlocutor’s words: “By the way, I watched that movie you mentioned. It turned out to be really great!”
Lighten the Mood
- If you were busy for several days and couldn’t reply to messages, admit it in a creative way: “Sorry, I couldn’t reply: I couldn’t find my phone charger for two weeks!”
Instead of “Good Morning”
- Tell about how your night was: “Just woke up from the best sleep. How are you?”
Being Funny
- Don’t be afraid to show your sense of humor or seem funny: “Hi! I bought a year’s supply of chocolate bars – want to share?”
Being Funny – Option 2
- Another way to let the interlocutor know that you thought of them in an unexpected way: “I’ve been thinking: if you were a character from ‘Harry Potter,’ which house would you be in?”
Asking for Advice
- The interlocutor will be pleased if you ask them for a recommendation – this shows that you are interested in their opinion. “I’d like to read an interesting book to unwind a bit. What would you recommend?”
Joining a Discussion
- Suggest discussing something together. To keep the conversation flowing naturally, it’s better to postpone serious questions for later stages and talk about something fun at the beginning: “My friend and I had a debate: what came first, the chicken or the egg? I think it’s the chicken, she thinks it’s the egg. Whose side are you on?”
Asking About a Meeting
- A great way to casually restart the conversation is to ask if you could have accidentally met in the city: “Were you at the central square today by any chance? I think I saw someone who looked like you, but I couldn’t approach and say hi.”
Being Sincere
- If you really like the person and want to continue the conversation, there’s nothing wrong with admitting it. “I think you are very nice, and I’d like to keep talking to you! Let’s switch to another social network to stay in touch?”
Key Takeaway These 17 tips can help you keep the conversation alive and engaging on a dating app. They range from intriguing starts and playful beginnings to sincere admissions and light-hearted questions. Use these methods to make your interactions more enjoyable and meaningful.
